There are many women out there thinking about transitioning, currently transitioning, already natural, or having thoughts of putting that creamy crack back on their heads. I am here to tell you that the natural hair journey WILL get easier, even though at times it seem impossible. It truly is possible to become a faithful naturalista!
Disclosure: This is a revived version of my originial guest-post titled, "Becoming A Faithful Naturalista" I wrote for the now deactivated website www.thenaturalmotivationbrunch.com/ July 2017
A Walk Down History Lane
My natural hair love began when I was still a child. I loved the way my hair waved and curled up depending on how my mama styled it for the week. What I didn’t like were question like: How does your hair wave up like that? And. Where are you from? These questions confused me because I was born and raised in Portland, Oregon to all black parents.
What did my birth place have to do with my hair doing what comes natural? Furthermore, the girls asking these
questions, were the ones whose moms had already slapped some relaxer on their heads by age 8, and they were now walking around with a 2-inch pony-tails!
Anyway, as I approached my early teens I began to listen to the all the ‘straight and slicked down’ hype. The pressure was intense to get a relaxer because that is all I saw at school and on TV. The fact of the matter was, I was secretly worried about what everyone thought of me. I was a very shy girl, who came from a poor, large family of 9 kids. So of course, I wanted to fit in if I could! Even if it meant feeling the ‘burn’.
After my first relaxer, I developed an unhealthy addiction to trying to keep my hair bone straight and edges laid. When I look back on it, it didn’t make sense because my style of choice was the Toni Braxton/ Halle Berry cut. Which required me using a curling iron almost every day. Can we say damage, damage, on top of more damage! It was clear I loved curls, but I wanted to appear as ‘professional’ as possible to the corporate work world.
Next came the relaxed wraps, braids, weaves, locs, and 2 divorces. (Yep I’ve been through it) I’ve done everything to my hair! I continually switched it up, and loved all the attention I was got from it. Unfortunately, I was still worried what everyone else thought of me!
While I was doing all these things myself to my own hair. (Yes, I didn’t let anyone touch my hair)so. It was apparent God blessed me with skills in the hair department. So, I kept busy braiding everyone else’s hair as well. Yes, I used to be the hood home-braider. LOL
I was so serious about my craft that back in MySpace days I created my first natural hair website. There was no doubt back then I was faithful naturalista. The big dreams running natural hair salon in my home was all I could think about. I also wanted to go to school for
natural hair, but that wasn’t an option in Oregon back then. Even though I thought I was a faithful naturalista back then, I truly wasn’t there yet.
Later on, I started realizing how important hair and scalp health was. More importantly, my own physical health! My hands began hurting horribly while braiding, and I began getting fed up everyone using me as the cheap/free braider. I began to care about my own well-being a little more and began using the word “no.” Instantly, I saw everyone’s true colors around me and so told myself it was time for a change. I still wanted to be the faithful naturalista I knew I had inside, but needed to figure out a better way of incorporating natural hair into my life.
I’ve said all of this to say, learn to stop worrying about what everyone else thinks or would say about you. It takes time, but when you get the hang of it your self-esteem will flourish. If you’re thinking of transitioning, go for it! People are going to think what they want regardless! Do what makes you happy! Do what makes sense to you.
It’s Possible To Be Faithful Naturalista
If you are currently transitioning. Just look at it as life in general. All phases of life haven’t always been easy, right? When you look back on all you’ve went through, think about the wisdom you gained. You will realize you’re way stronger than you thought! So don’t stop your transition.
If you are currently natural and getting frustrated because your curls are not doing what you want. Or, you haven’t found the products that work best for you yet, It’s OK. Remember the natural hair journey is not a race! Good things take time.
Our curls will never do exactly what we want, so don’t expect it to! Isn’t that how life is anyway? So please, have some compassion for your curls.
If you’re the Naturalista veering on the edge of going back to relaxers. Girl….. you better stop right now in your tracks!!! Treat those thoughts like a boyfriend from the past, don’t even go there! The natural hair journey is about moving forward and learning to embrace what you were born with. It’s a journey of self-growth, self-love, patience, and being learning to be positive. Which, are all great qualities to have and cherish. Remember, we are all a work in progress, and I’ll be the first to say, I am loving my progress!
So What Do You Think?
Have you let the views of others deter your path to becoming faithful naturalista? Are you more or less confident in your natural hair journey then when you began? Let’s talk about it? Let me know your thoughts in the comments, and I will talk to you all later Roses!
Source: Olena Rosanne